The Power of Two: Beyond Couples Counselling

Couples counselling is two people in a romantic relationship, right? Husband and wife. Partners in a relationship. Two people. We hear it said more often than not:

• “They're in a relationship.”

• “They're a couple, have been for years.”

• “They’ve been dating for a long time.”

• “My partner and I have been together since last year.”

• “We only started seeing each other in the last month.”

It begs the questions: What is a relationship? What is a couple. What does dating mean? What is a partnership? Seeing each other? Are you in a relationship with anyone? Who’s it really for?

Myth #1 – Couples counselling is for a married couple or two people in a romantic relationship.
Truth: Counselling is for any two people navigating a relationship – parent/child, siblings, friends, colleagues, flatmates, or partners.

Myth #2 – Relationship counselling is only for fixing things when they’re broken.
Truth: It can also be for strengthening what's already working, clarifying what's unclear, and learning tools to keep relationships healthy.

Myth #3 – Counselling is about choosing sides.
Truth: It’s about creating balance, clarity and communication between two people – no matter who they are.

The Many Faces of “Two People”

The picture is bigger than the myths, the lies we believe, and I/We are a part of that picture.

• Home: parent-child, siblings, flatmates, parents.

• Work: colleagues, boss-employee, team-mates, business partners.

• Friends: old friends, new friends, friendships under strain.

• Partnerships: romantic or otherwise.
  

Are we seeing the picture now? It’s bigger than the myths. It’s bigger than what's in our heads. It’s bigger than, “There’s no room for me, I don’t fit the criteria. I'm not in a romantic relationship but my friend and I want help to navigate some challenges.” They're not a couple, they are friends, they are two people who need relationship counselling.

Your New Superpower
The focus is not on “fixing” the other person. It’s about understanding dynamics, setting
boundaries, cutting through BS when required, and building healthier ways of relating – whether
in love, family, friendship, or workplace – it always takes two. Your superpower is whatever you want it to be, wield that sword, wave that banner, strike a chord:

Never thought it was for you? Think again. Shake, rattle, and roll – shake off all those pre-conceived ideas, false myths – it is FOR YOU. It includes you. Roll with that!

Bottom line: relationship counselling is for any two people who want to improve what they’ve already got, dealing with life’s challenges and navigating their way through.

Imagery – What do you see?
When you think of a couple, a relationship of two people – what do you see? A balance, an
imbalance, one carrying more than the other, uneven, unequal. I see this:

“Any Two = You and You”.

I simply see two people, any two people, which constitutes a relationship to me – because regardless of the relationship-type that we are in, we are relating, we are interacting, we are engaging. Simple.

The Impact – is as huge as you want it to be!
When the myths area renounced, and the lies we've believed are shattered, and the truth is now before us – the impact is great. As great as you want it to be.

• Conflict reduces, issues are resolved, growth takes place. Mutual understanding.

• Clarity and trust strengthen, the power shift is equal.

• The relationship shifts from struggle to growth.

• “I'm no longer afraid to reach out – I/We qualify!”

• Accessibility: Never thought it was for you – well, IT IS!

A familiar old saying: “It takes two to tango,” but that’s only one small piece of the bigger puzzle. The key to unlocking that puzzle is your cut through: I/We qualify for relationship counselling!!

Anchor/Affirm/Articulate

This is a space for you to anchor yourself in your belief about what constitutes couples or relationship counselling. You can affirm it however you want to frame it and then you can articulate it, speak it, believe it, enact it – conquer it.

“I qualify, we qualify for relationship counselling, guidance, mentoring, and even mediation! I articulate it now that my mind and our pathway is clear.”

A bigger and brighter picture opens up what once was a very small view.