Speak Your Truth Mediation

What is Mediation?

Mediation is a process where two people come together in a neutral and supportive space to talk things through, and work toward resolving a specific issue or conflict. With me as your mediator, you will be heard - not judged, not “fixed”, but truly heard – and supported as you work toward practical, mutually agreed outcomes.

This isn’t a space for pointing fingers. It’s not:

“Yeah, but you said…”

“No, I didn’t. I made myself clear…”

It’s not about rehashing who’s right or wrong. Mediation is about hearing each other’s perspectives, owning your part, and focusing on what needs to happen next – not what happened then.

By the time you get here, you likely have a clear idea of what you want to get out of the process – and I will work with you to help shape the best possible outcome for both of you. It’s honest, grounded, and forward moving. That’s the kaupapa.

Who is Mediation For?

Mediation is for any two people navigating conflict and wanting to work through it in a structured, safe, and solution-focused way. This could be:

· Partners or ex-partners

· Friends or whānau

· Colleagues, flatmates, or business connections

Together, we will name the issues, talk through them one by one, and aim for a resolution that works for both sides.

Sometimes, resolution isn’t immediate or complete – and that’s okay. Even if you don’t walk away with a fully resolved outcome, you’ll walk away with clarity, closure, or the next step forward.

If more support or time is needed, that can be discussed between both parties and myself as Mediator. The goal is to ensure everyone leaves feeling clear, seen, and able to move ahead.

What Can Be Resolved Through Mediation?

Every situation is unique – and so are the people involved. If everything was smooth sailing, you likely wouldn’t be here. Mediation provides a structured, neutral space where issues can be addressed and explored with the goal of reaching clarity and agreement.

Some common reasons people come to mediation include:

1. Resolving longstanding or recent personal or relational conflicts.

2. Working through grievances or misunderstandings that are impacting trust or connection.

3. Reaching mutual understanding, respect, and practical next steps.

4. Rebuilding communication or trust – whether in a personal, professional, or shared environment.

Not all negotiations result in full agreement. Sometimes, people simply go as far as they can go – and even that is progress. If a resolution isn’t reached, we reflect on the process and what needs to happen next. Whether that’s closure, further work, or taking time to regroup – it’s up to the people in the room.

When Mediation Brings More to the Surface

Mediation is designed to support resolution around a specific issue. However, the process can sometimes bring deeper emotional patterns or long-held dynamics into the open.

While mediation is not counselling, I'm always mindful of what is surfacing through the process. If deeper needs or emotions arise, we pause – respectfully – and explore whether another level of support might be helpful. That decision always remains with the individuals involved.

Sometimes, by the end of the process, people discover that what they initially thought they wanted has shifted. They may decide to work on the relationship or take some time to think more deeply. The process is flexible, responsive, and ultimately centred around what’s most supportive for you.

A Real-World Example – Mediation for Separation

Some years ago, I was approached by a couple in a long-term de facto relationship who recognised that continuing together would only hinder both their growth. Though they still cared for each other, tensions had built over time. One party, in particular, felt the need to end the relationship in a safe space – free from the fear of being overwhelmed or overpowered by the dynamic. They both sought a respectful process to separate, despite their different levels of readiness.

During mediation, we created a neutral space for each of them to express their concerns and needs. By working through those tensions, they eventually reached an agreement that allowed them to separate on mutually respectful terms. The process provided the clarity and safety they both needed to move forward separately, with a shared understanding that continuing together would only be detrimental.

My Approach to Mediation

My role as a mediator is to remain neutral, guiding and supporting both parties through a structured and respectful process. I provide a space where each person can speak freely – without interruption, without judgment.

I value clarity, transparency, and accountability. I'm open, straightforward, and I like to keep it real – for myself, and for the people I work with. I listen attentively to both parties, reflect back what I hear, and help move the process forward toward the outcome they're seeking.

I do not take sides. I do not lean toward one person more than the other. I do not make judgments. What I do is respect each person and the reason they have come to mediation. I wear one hat only – mediator – and I carry that role with integrity, holding space for both parties equally. This is about them. And it’s about me showing up in the right way to help them move through it.

What I offer in Mediation

I bring many years of lived experience – navigating health issues, relational dynamics, separation and divorce, financial struggles, business, self-employment, and life’s bigger challenges. I've worked in counselling, training, communication coaching, and mediation settings where understanding, empathy, and accountability all matter.

I believe most people who come to mediation already have a sense of why they're there. they're not looking to be told what to do – they're looking for someone impartial, professional, and grounded to guide them through it. That’s what I offer: a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space where self-respect and respect for others can coexist, and where meaningful outcomes are possible.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Is mediation confidential?
Yes. What is said in mediation stays in mediation – unless both parties agree to share information. Your privacy is respected at all times.

Is this counselling?
No. Mediation focuses on resolving specific issues or conflicts. It’s not therapy or emotional healing, though strong feels can arise. I hold space for emotions respectfully, helping keep the process on track.

What if the other person doesn’t want to come?
Mediation requires both parties’ willingness. No one is forced to participate, so it only works if both want to engage.

Is mediation legally binding?
No, but you can choose to formalise any agreement by signing a written summary of what was agreed. I assist with preparing this summary for your records.

What does it cost?

Private mediation for two people (non-legal, personal/professional focus):

Standard hourly rate (60 minutes): $150
1.5-hour session: $225 (flat rate)

How does mediation work?

The process promotes acceptance and non-judgment. I guide and support both parties to reach fair, mutually agreed outcomes. Here’s what to expect:

• Initial Contact: We chat to see if mediation is right for you.

• Pre-Mediation Check-In: Some people like to check in individually pre-mediation (with consent of all parties). This is completely optional. The goal is to provide and support a safe, clear, and productive process for everyone involved. We are transparent in mediation and work toward keeping it honest, real, and clear.

• Joint Mediation Session: We come together to talk openly, with equal opportunity to speak and listen. I facilitate toward your goals.

• Follow-Up Summary: I can provide a concluding summary outlining what was covered and agreed upon, should you require this. This helps both parties have clarity moving forward.

Know it. See it. Speak it. Own it.

Mediation isn’t just about resolution – its about reclaiming your voice!